3) Release guilt and shame about your body and your sex drive or lack of, the best thing you can do is accept yourself as you are. If you’re running around busy with kids all the time you’re less likely to feel like you want to have sex because you may be disconnected with yourself. Start with saying or writing “ I remember when I felt guilty and shameful about sex, or my body”
4) Do you know your love language? If not, I highly recommend learning how you give and receive love. When you know how to help yourself feel loved, even if you’re care taking for everyone else, you’ll have a lot more to give. If you love words of affirmation, start by complimenting yourself throughout the day, notice the small, simple acts of kindness that you do often.
5) Choose to receive pleasure, as women we so often get into people pleasing, time to let that one go sister! It’s one of the biggest turn offs! Get your libido pumping again by inhabiting the luscious body that you’re living in. It may sound cliché but you need to discover what gives you pleasure, take 5 minutes a day to slow down and savour something that feels delicious, it could be as simple as taking a breath. As you understand what gives you pleasure, you’ll become more and more receptive to receiving pleasure from your partner.